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Job Hunting Using The Bachelor Mentality

12 January 2010 Written by: Orietta Ramirez 8 Comments
Job Hunting Using The Bachelor Mentality

Ok, I’m going to admit to something that a few have been sworn to secrecy upon the pain of possible death … I watch The Bachelor … ok, I hear the gasps, I see the eyes rolling and yet, I know you feel my pain. Allow me to explain.  The reason why I watch is scientific.  Really! How can you not relate to the women (and the men, during the seasons of The Bachelorette) as we face the job layoffs and job search? It IS like trying to get the attentions of that one special person (hiring manager), and ultimately the proposal (job offer) from the next new employer while still getting over the last rejection (or being fired)!

You must see the parallels. You have to apply, submit an application and video to get picked for the next level (the show).  You find yourself competing among 25+ beautiful, talented, motivated, creative and even manipulative candidates (talk about a shock to your self-esteem).  You then briefly meet the Prospective Employer (the Bachelor) during that first interview (introduction).  So

  • you want to make that big entrance (gracefully exit from the limo),
  • you want to showcase your talents (say something witty), and
  • you try to come up with something that will separate you from the rest (some girls pretend to trip, others bring gifts, others speak in foreign tongues and tell the Bachelor to meet them later for the translation.

During that first elimination round, there’s that big elephant in the room, that “First Impression Rose”. One lucky girl is guaranteed a spot to the next round … oh what I would give for that FIR! Amazing what some of the candidates do, i.e., strip down to their underwear and jump in the pool (wonder if it’s heated?), perform an opera (short yet a bit scary), or even more conniving, bring out the guitar and sing the song you they wrote just for them … all talents and skills I admit I lack.

Ok, so enough about the Bachelor, back to the “real” world and what we do to get in front of the hiring manager and execute getting that first, oh so vital, interview. Although you try to ignore the staggering numbers of the unemployed, the true nightmare begins when you mentally register that for every job opening (those few and far between), there are no less than 10 “qualified” applicants. Add to that those who are over-qualified and those not qualified, who also apply. Like the unemployment percentages (10% publicized, 17% actual), you are now jockeying (good choice of words) for a position with no less than 30+ applicants (and that is putting it mildly!)

So, back to The Bachelor.  If I didn’t get that First Impression Rose, or even worse, if I was one of those first 10 to be eliminated, I understand why they end up crying during the post-interview.  I relate to their statements (and PLEASE replace he/him with hiring manager hereinafter)

  • “he doesn’t know what he is missing or letting go”,
  • “he didn’t give me a chance to really show him how right I was for him”,
  • “What could I have done differently so that he would have given me the rose (job)”
  • “I was the perfect match for him”
  • “I’m so disappointed”
  • “I just don’t get it why he picked her and not me!?”

You get the gist (and thus my my job search life such as it is right about now).

Now back to maneuvering the tough job market and connecting with the hiring manager — I recently read a story about a woman who put her resume in her baby daughter’s tiny shoe and sent it to the CEO of the company she wanted to work for.  Her cover letter (a note inside the shoe) simply stated,

 I’m a shoe in, when can we meet to discuss my start date?

Story claims she got the job!  Given the difficult and competitive job market, creativity, ingenuity, stamina, resilience and persistence (to list a few) are at the core of to the job search. So like the girls on the Bachelor, I have to believe, and yes I do believe in fairy tales, that if you don’t initially connect, just try, try again, until someone finally gets it right. There is a reason why it was not meant to be… and the right Bachelor (Hiring Mgr) will finally pick You (ME).

For now, it is back to the drawing board.

How creative have you been in order to get that first interview?  Did it work?

Orietta Ramirez is a native New Yorker, born in Brooklyn, raised in The Bronx, and presently calls home in Dutchess County, New York. Pedagogically, her claim to fame, as she puts it, is that she shares Cardinal Spellman H.S. as her alma mater with the distinguished Associate Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor, Fordham University with Vince Lombardi and Steve Bellán, first Latin American to play Major League Baseball, and with Geraldo Rivera, another Brooklyn Law School alum. A first generation Chilean-American, she is a dynamic bilingual lawyer, employee relations advocate and project manager, with experience in human capital administration, audit and risk management. While leveraging her legal and compliance background as an HR partner, she incorporates her expertise on projects and in business relationships with a focus on diversity and inclusion as well as talent management. She is an avid reader and includes salsa dancing among her extracurricular activities, and is always open to all that is intriguing and challenging, which offers new opportunities for thought.

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  • Jessica Garvar said:

    I miss your content on Jobing.com! This was so right on! :)

  • Antonio Rivera said:

    I love the comparison to The Bachelor (I am not a fan). However, you are once again right on. You must search, apply and be selected. Only the best will do. The only issue I have is that like beauty, the best is in the eye of the hiring manager. As an applicant you meet the requirements to the ‘T’ but are not selected. You wonder, what is that hiring manager really looking for? Where is the feedback? Press on!

  • Diana E. De Arce said:

    I’ve never watch The Bachelor, but, apparently, I’m a contestant.

    You hit the nail right on the head!

  • Carrie Corcoran said:

    I love your analogy. I too watch the Bachelor, hate to admit it and my husband thinks it is trash TV.

    I’m not sure how creative my approach was but it has gotten me in the door 80% of the time. I applied for a job with a start up company that I found on the Monster board. I researched the company, found the CEO’s name and address and put together a cover letter and resume (touched on everything that they were looking for stated in the job description in resume or cover letter). I dropped these off in person for the CEO. After I dropped the information off I submitted my resume through Monster. I figured it would be a double whammy for them. My tactics were effective. I had two screening interviews on the phone, met with the CEO and the VP of Business Development and within 7 days was offered the job. They told me that 300 had submitted resumes, they interviewed three and I was always the top candidate. I continue to do this with anything that I am truly interested in and I would say it works 80% of the time.

    I have tried this once since my last layoff and have not had any results. If at first you don’t succeed…try try again and again and again.

  • Orietta (author) said:

    Thanks, Jessica, look forward to connecting with you.

    Antonio – you got it (and get me)! Love the “eye in the manager/beholder” perspective.

    Diana – may you make it to the final rose!

    Carrie – kudos for your creativity, follow through and persistence. Better to be at the 80% versus 20%.

    I got a note from another who said “I stripped at an interview once and got the “thorns”. I say to that, a rose is still a rose, so keep looking!

  • Walter "mercado" Adam said:

    Hey Ori!
    I liken my job hunting experience more to ‘American Idol’ for the following reasons/analogies:
    * More episodes (rounds) than the ‘Bachelor’, but a little less drama or crying
    * I’ve run into more Simon Cowells than I would have prefered (too much non-constructive feedback and too judgemental!)
    * Friends like you are always there for a kind word and support; my own personal Paula Abdul
    One major difference is that I wish the American public would be the final vote caster for my job because these hiring managers have no eye for talent! Keep fighting the good fight! Give ’em hell!

  • Adriana said:

    Ori, this is your best piece yet! I love the comparison to the Bachelor. It painted a clear picture on how to prepare yourself competitively and ways to get someone’s attention. The only part that does not apply is the part where a person takes the Bachelor’s/Hiring Manager’s choice personally. It’s business, not personal. If you don’t get the first job, you move on with your head held high, and keep on going. The situation has to work for both parties, so perhaps the first opportunity that doesn’t work out just isn’t meant to be.

  • Israel Garcia said:

    I’ve never seen the Bachelor Orietta,so I have a very little idea of the whole conversation, though I think I got the point. Anyway, I’ll try to contribute with my grain of sand…

    In my opinion, managers should hire by attitude, ability and the things they’ve put in practise, not just getting the people by overlooking candidates’ resume. I’d like to act as a COFIDIS (a worldwide insurance-finance company based on France) They just look at your resume when you have already joined the company, isn’t nice?

    However, we should be ready for everything “we have to hunt with the wolves and run with the sheep”

    Hope this makes sense

    Great post though.

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