Dr. Phil’s “Real Life: Preparing for the Seven Most Challenging Days of Your Life” Provides Solid Emotional Insight
Losing your job is traumatic. You may have lost your ability to provide for your family. It brings on financial stress. It comes with feelings of betrayal, shame and guilt all at the same time. If you relied on your work to bring purpose and significance to your life, that was taken away from you. You are now left with finding a way to fill the emptiness. You may be asking yourself. “Who am I? Why am I here? Why am I alive?” All these can lead to anxiety, depression, and even thoughts of suicide.
Dr. Phil has NOT written a cliché “feel-good” book filled with platitudes. He has written a practical guide for dealing with very difficult times and the feeling and attitudes that typically accompany them. You can sum up the book with the following statement, “As tough a time as this may be for you and as bad as you may feel right now, there are others that have gone before you. And they can serve as witnesses that not only can you survive this, but you can become a better person for having gone through it.”
From surveys he has taken, Dr. Phil has selected seven days that in his opinion provide the biggest challenges you are likely to face in your lifetime. I expected them to be concrete, but they are more like states your reach in your life as a results of life events. And I believe the seven are right on. Of the seven, four ring very familiar to those that have lost their jobs and are looking for work. These four are:
- The day your heart got shattered by the death of a loved one, divorce, loss of a friend, life dream or career.
- The day you realize you lived your life as a sellout. You have been living in fear of failure or fear of disappointing others. You have let your authentic self down.
- The day you realize you are overwhelmed and are no longer in control. You cannot meet the demands placed on you.
- The day you have lost your sense of purpose and meaning in life.
Consider this book for taking care of your emotional, mental, and spiritual well being whether your transition is going well or not.