You're Fired! Part 4 – I Dare Not Go It Alone
(This article continues where OERamz’s third article “You’re Fired! Part 3 – What’s All This Web 2 Point Oh My God?” left off.)
I recently read someone’s touching reflection of an influential person in his life – his Boy Scout leader. He shared how this man had played an important role in his life, how he had learned from this coach to be the man, father, employer and all around person he had become… a testament to those who have guided us and served as incredible role models. This chapter is dedicated to those special, memorable, unforgettable and oft unacknowledged angels/teachers.
I have been graced with mentors and guides during my academic and career life. Friends and colleagues whom I have met and acquired (I am very possessive) throughout my journeys. They are also the professionals who hired me, engendered my skills and talent and tutored me during my career. A number of former employers, I am proud to say, remain constant in my life, thank goodness for them! With that in mind, I could not go about this job search alone. I needed my guides once again.
After researching (yes, that again), I was led to a number of coaches and mentors. Here are two of those with whom I recently worked to realign my priorities, gain clarity of thought, and worst yet (and best yet), allowed me to acknowledge my own failings (not many, I assure you – tongue in cheek) so that I could take the next steps. Talk about enlightenment, empowerment, and finally a realistic approach to my present job situation.
The first mentor I worked with was Rod Colon, the CEO and Founder of Empowering Today’s Professional. With him, I learned to understand the entrepreneur, marketing approach of ME as CEO. He pulled no punches teaching selling me as product and not the individual (I was not a willing student at first). The concept of marketing one’s skills and experience versus who I am was initially uncomfortable for “me”. You see, I’m a touchy feely kinda girl … I need to believe it is all about me, the person. Had to take the emotional aspect out, bring the business approach in. Logical, dear Data, very logical.
My second tutor was leadership and life coach, Ellie Nieves Jurado (see www.ellienieves.com), President and Founder of Leadership Strategies for Women. I found a kindred spirit, who reflected similar educational and professional paths. However, she has (inspirationally and professionally) taken it much further. Our initial session came by way of my first self-assessment test Tom Rath’s StrengthsFinder 2.0. I recommend it for those in a transitional phase, both personally and professionally. Summary in hand, and with Ellie’s guidance, I began my journey to re-learn and re-shape who I was and what I wanted to be when I grew up …?!
Lessons learned? If you take a moment to think about the ways your goals have changed during the course of your life, you will realize that goal setting is a fluid, ever-changing process rather than a fixed destination. By choosing to see our goals as a fluid work in progress, we give ourselves the flexibility and stamina to stay motivated over the long-term. Just as we grow and change during the course of our lives, our goals must also shift to reflect who we are at any given moment. By choosing to see our long-term goals as fluid rather than fixed, we empower ourselves with the ability to stay motivated and excited, even when facing challenges.
In my case, yes, there is the issue of financial stability, yes there is the sense of loyalty, since most of my jobs had resulted from referrals. However, for some time, I denied myself the joy of working. Losing a sense of fulfillment and commitment in what it was I was doing. Had I lost the inspiration and aspiration? As I progressed, and by way of a number of “aha” moments, arrived at a new phase/conclusion – I need to follow my bliss…
Do you remember or have a special teacher, coach, mentor, guide? How did they help and influence you?
Don’t miss Orietta’s “You’re Fired! Part 5 – Getting to Know You…Online That Is”
Orietta E. Ramírez (pen name OERamz) is a native New Yorker, born in Brooklyn, raised in The Bronx, and presently calls home in Dutchess County, New York. Pedagogically, her claim to fame, as she puts it, is that she shares Cardinal Spellman H.S. as her alma mater with the distinguished Associate Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor, Fordham University with Vince Lombardi and Steve Bellán, first Latin American to play Major League Baseball, and with Geraldo Rivera, another Brooklyn Law School alum. A first generation Chilean-American, she is a dynamic bilingual lawyer, employee relations advocate and project manager, with experience in human capital administration, audit and risk management. While leveraging her legal and compliance background as an HR partner, she incorporates her expertise on projects and in business relationships with a focus on diversity and inclusion as well as talent management. She is an avid reader and includes salsa dancing among her extracurricular activities, and is always open to all that is intriguing and challenging, which offers new opportunities for thought.